Black Women Discussing Our Issues on Our Terms
call her or not?
I was listening to Steve Harvey on day on my way to work. A female socialitee was on there giving advice to black women. That they should welcome a call from the ex wife or ex girlfriend warning them that the man they are seeing is abusive, or been in prisoner, a rapist, etc, just to name a few examples of a tainted past.
Most women in a new relationship don't want to hear from the ex. They think that she is being spiteful or crazy for calling. I would welcome the call. If she is that angry to call me, then I want to hear in this day and time what she has to say,
I got a call and ingnored it. I found myself in a toxic marrage with a drug addicted , pornography addicted man. It thought she was lying. If I would have listened. I could have saved myself from years of drama.
1. Men who prey will never stop if black women don't stop and investigate before they go further. I have learned a valuable lesson. To love with my eyes and ears wide open.
2. She has the right to make an informed choice.
3. How do we stop the rampage of black men running heartless game, if we don't talk to each other?
4. Encourage back ground checks. criminal checks.
I know a women who did a check and saw the assult and still entered into the relationship.
What do you think?
Most women in a new relationship don't want to hear from the ex. They think that she is being spiteful or crazy for calling. I would welcome the call. If she is that angry to call me, then I want to hear in this day and time what she has to say,
I got a call and ingnored it. I found myself in a toxic marrage with a drug addicted , pornography addicted man. It thought she was lying. If I would have listened. I could have saved myself from years of drama.
1. Men who prey will never stop if black women don't stop and investigate before they go further. I have learned a valuable lesson. To love with my eyes and ears wide open.
2. She has the right to make an informed choice.
3. How do we stop the rampage of black men running heartless game, if we don't talk to each other?
4. Encourage back ground checks. criminal checks.
I know a women who did a check and saw the assult and still entered into the relationship.
What do you think?
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Permalink Reply by Caramel Dream88 on -
im in a relationship with a man that i love, who started out very quiet and charming, he catered to me and was genuinly interested and concerned about my well-being. Now he is posessive, secretive, he lie allot now, he dont show me much attention. he complain of being busy. i say that is not an excuse, it dont take five seconds to give a kiss, to say baby how was your day. "i work too, i go to school too! i still find the time to fix you breakfast in the morning and dinner at night. i still find time to show you that i appreciate you and is still in love with you after almost 4 years." He's not the worst guy, we all need a tune- up sometime. A warning would have been good, at least i would have been alittle more cautious to the personality change. Relationships are learning experiences, you learn alot about your self and what you like and dislike in a man, what to look for in the next man you pick, i believe relationship causes mental growth, always find someone that can show you new things, someone you can learn from. Find a man that is goal oriented, that strives to suceed. make sure that man has you as a top priority, never settle for the back burner! And if you are lucky enough t o get a warning, you dont have to break up with the person just keep the warning in mind, its a good thing bc now your eyes are open.
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